“David lost his job last year when his firm had to cut back, but it all turned out for the best because he now works for a very large Danish company. This means that he no longer has the daily trek into London (one and a half hours each way), he can work from home and also has an office about ten minutes away. His team is in Denmark and he makes frequent visits.”
I knew David when he was a child and I was a teenager: out parents played bridge. Our mothers still correspond.
Why do we stay in situations that not ideal?
I’m thinking of jobs, relationships (non-romantic ones), neighbourhoods and others. We change our motor cars when they no longer serve us, but we hang onto other parts of our lives way beyond their “sell-by date”.
When life gives us a shove we discover how much better things are on the other side of the change. As with David losing his job.
The thing that most often holds us back is fear: fear of loss, fear of change. We don’t want to disappoint our family, risk our friendships, have others suffer because of our decision.
Will Smith recently explained fear (click here). In his case he joined a group of friends to go tandem sky diving. He concludes that once he was out of the plane the experience was pure bliss. His message is that all good things lie on the other side of fear.
That’s nice! But fear is real and most of us struggle to appreciate the good things that may (or may not) lie on the other side of our fear.
We can’t turn to our family or friends to help us out: they are too intimately involved in the consequences of our decisions. Where do we turn?
Realistically, we all have the inner resourcefulness to overcome the “situations” of life. We may not know it, but think back on the last time life dealt you a curved ball; what did you do to get out of that situation. Yes, you have the resources.
But trying to convince yourself is like thinking in circles – and I recently wrote about how effective that can be.
A coaching environment is there to assist you in finding those resources within yourself, affirming that you can see your way through your decisions. It is also there to help you as you take the steps through your decision. So where to find such a coaching environment? Life coaches charge a high price. What if there was a group of fellow travellers on this path of life that were available in a coaching environment to help you as you help them?
A Coaching Culture Club offers this: a group of people who are learning the coaching skills, imparting their life-wisdom, rooting for each other to become the best person each one is capable of being. As this culture (and skill) of coaching grows around the world, no one need feel disempowered to make the right decision when life is no longer ideal. Everyone can strive to improve their life circumstances on an ongoing basis to live a fulfilled and significant life.
“Come to the edge," he said.