I think we all wish we were in control of our circumstances. The truth is that the only thing we are really in control of is our reaction to our circumstances (attributed to Benjamin Disraeli, Brian Tracy, Jennie Finch, Tony Dungy and M J Ashton). Tony Robins said that if we try something and it doesn’t work, then try something else. It that doesn’t work, then try something else. Keep trying until something works. Our circumstances may be outside of our immediate control but we can keep trying something new in reaction to our circumstances until something works. It is our actions that we are in control of.
It does mean that we must be flexible to change according to circumstances and according to what is working for us and what is not working. The very thought of “change” bring about a rush of fear for many people. Change and uncertainty bring about a condition of fear, while focusing on action (activity) and monitoring the outcome brings about a sense of control and certainty.
How then can we act when our natural reaction is fear? The first action is not to be alone. Having an ‘accountability partner’ for your activity, someone you trust and someone who will help you find the courage in yourself to take each next step, is a solid first step to taking control of your reactions (actions) to your circumstances. It is not a surprise that Wikipedia defines an ‘accountability partner’ as “a person who coaches another person”.
Coaching Culture Clubs fills this vacuum in the lives of ordinary people: the need for an ‘accountability partner’ who will coach you into action to take control of the circumstances that arise in your life.