What were your first achievements? Rolling over, sitting up, crawling, your first word, standing, walking, speaking. When you watch a baby you realise the effort all the ‘firsts’ take to accomplish. At age two we realise we are not an extension of our mother and we assert ourselves. At age three we discover that there are reasons for everything and our thirst for knowledge begins. Then the first day of “big” school arrives with great excitement. Every child in the right learning environment flourishes in their eagerness to learn. After twelve-odd years we may take a “gap year”. Mostly this too means learning new things, discovering the world and its workings, new cultures, networking, earning money, accomplishing the ‘impossible’ sometimes. Should we study further, we focus on knowledge and skills required for a career. And we learn to party (or whatever the term was in your era – we learned to jol)!
Often we look forward to our first job, pay-cheque, no responsibilities so that we can really good at partying. Sometimes we fool ourselves into believing that this is the ultimate achievement in life – twenty-something years of effort in order to ‘cruise’ and achieve nothing more.
Twenty-one years of effort and we achieve adulthood.
Those were not our dreams when we were children. Children dream of being ‘super-heroes’, owning an aeroplane, building a castle, changing the world.
We may bury those dreams, but they do not die. Ignoring them eats away at us subconsciously: we feel “less than”, “not good enough”, “insignificant”. We think these feelings arise in comparison to other people, but I think these feelings arise in comparison to what we set out to be when we arrived on this earth and have set aside, chosen to ignore.
Your buried childhood dreams eat at your self-image.
There is hope: rediscover your dreams and translate them into a vision with a plan for the future. “Not so easy to get out of my rut”, you say.
There is help. The role of the Life Coach is to walk the path with you as you rediscover your mission in life, to ask the questions that will allow you to translate your dreams into present and future goals, to hold you accountable as you plan the steps to bring these goals into the real world, to remind you that you can achieve.
But, it takes effort.
Just as it took twenty-one years of effort in many areas of your life to become an adult with the basic skills in place, so it will take effort to build the foundations for a life’s mission and its fulfilment.
Life coaching can turn childhood dreams into a life’s mission.
Effort is always rewarded and putting effort into the questions that a life coaching partnership presents will be richly rewarded in terms of self-image, achievement satisfaction and even financial rewards. A well structured life coaching programme means that you have the advantage of looking ahead to an outcome. But it is the amount of effort put into every step of the journey that delivers the rewards.
Effort delivers reward.
My message is that a life coaching intervention is always beneficial, but the richness of the rewards that it will deliver is dependant on the effort the coachee (person being coached) puts in. It’s a home truth that will always apply.